Five Things To Do Right Now To Ease Into Parenthood This Year

five ways for parents to begin the new year

Happy New Year readers! I hope everyone had a relaxing time bringing in the new year. I’m stoked to kick this year off. I have tons and tons of content ideas to share with you. For most of the year, I’ll focus on parenthood content to help ease the transition and troubleshoot. Expect to read about choosing the right diaper for your baby, creating a schedule for your little one, and much more. Today, I’d like to share what I’m doing to begin my year of parenthood hassle-free.

purge your child's old clothing

It’s mind-blowing how fast infants grow out of their clothes. From 5 to 6 months, I spent so much time shuffling through Avianna’s closet looking for clothes she could fit. Let’s just say that she received a new wardrobe for Christmas. One thing I suggest doing at the start of a new year is to review your child’s closet and pack away or donate clothes that they’ve outgrown. I chose to save JUST in case we have another girl in the future. 


sanitize toys

You shouldn’t be unfamiliar with sanitizing or disinfecting after the year we had. Sanitizing toys is and should be a regular household chore but it’s particularly important that you give those toys a deep cleanse. Cleaners that are baby-friendly are emerging and because your child is likely to put their toys in their month, you want to disinfect with something without harsh chemicals such as bleach and ammonia. Here are a couple of favorites. Seventh- Generation Disinfectant Spray: https://amzn.to/3n66LPp and BabyGanics Multi-Surface Cleaner: https://amzn.to/3n4f8e7  


do all of the laundry

Let’s do this dirty laundry, dirty laundry as Kelly Rowland would say. Wash everything! Sheets, pillows, and baby bags. 


organize doctor appointments

If anyone regularly sees a doctor, it’s a parent. Make sure you’re organized with which days work for wellness visits and reschedule if you are foreseeing a conflict. 


focus on one aspect of your child's growth

And last but not least, try to pick one milestone to prioritize that you want your little one to meet. When I think about all of the milestones I’d like to reach with Avianna it’s overwhelming and nothing but pressure.  Instead of focusing on everything you’d like your child to learn, focus on that one thing. For us, we are focusing on having Avianna sleep in her crib in her own room. She’s never done it and usually sleeps next to us in a pack n play or co-sleeps with me. Needless to say, I want my bed back. We started off the new year by having her sleep in her room and she did so well. She only woke up once and it was around 5 in the morning. Two things that helped with this process were her sleep sound machine: https://amzn.to/3o1MfAJ and her humidifier with color night lights:https://amzn.to/3rLvVX7   (I add essential oils as well, try lavender).

I hope these tips help you start your year off with some clarity, cleanliness, and determination to beast mode parenthood. I’d love to hear from you about how you started your year. Did you enjoy what you read? All feedback is welcome.

3 Life-Changing Lessons I Learned in 2020

3 Life-Changing Lessons I Learned in 2020

Can you believe that the year is over in a matter of days? WHAT A YEAR! 2020 definitely has been full of twists and turns. I’m walking away from this year with viewpoints I didn’t imagine. Between having a baby and being quarantined for most of the year, I’ve had to learn to keep sane and push forward. As I reflect on the year, here are the three things I’ve learned that I plan to continue to value as the years continue. 

  1. Don’t undervalue your community

Being a new mom in a pandemic has its pros and cons. I enjoy having space and time to bond with Avianna however, I feel like we are missing out on play dates and family gatherings. I get really stuck some days feeling like we are missing out on so much. I don’t know about you, but my phone screen timed has increased because I’m looking into online mom groups and online shopping (okay, most of it is online shopping). The pandemic has paved the way for moms to connect outside of being in-person. It’s been great being a part of these groups since there is plenty of shared information and experiences. In addition to the mom groups, my loved ones have also figured out how to be supportive without being in-person. There are always kind texts and calls that make the day better.  It’s nice to have people check-in and be there to listen and support. 

  1. Take a moment & pace yourself 

Pandemic or not, having a moment to yourself to restore is essential. It’s hard as heck raising a kid, taking classes, trying to get my pre-prego body back, having sexy time with Diego, working a full-time job, and other responsibilities around the house. I cannot even tell you the last time I slept through an entire night. I’ve had to come to terms that not everything needs to be done in a day. It’s mandatory that I set aside time for myself every day. EVERY SINGLE DAY! Most of the time, I use my time set aside to absolutely do nothing and watch a couple of episodes of my favorite shows. 

  1. Spend Time Doing Something That Interest You

I would really be stir crazy if I didn’t have activities in the week that I enjoy. In the past year, I’ve started to take classes, launched a website, and started a podcast (somewhat).  I never thought I would like taking informatic courses! At first, I struggled to get into the groove of being in school again but now I have a schedule and I’m enjoying the weekly content ways I can use these courses to claim my bag. Aside from classes, creating this blog has been a fun getaway from the pandemic disaster. I’m looking forward to growing my audience and content over the next year. 

Who the hell knows what 2021 will bring. As I see it, we will still face pandemic restrictions while we figure out the new normal for a few months longer. Let’s continue to show gratitude, be humble, and social distance as we roll into 2021. What lessons are you taking with you into the new year? 

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‘Tis the Season For An Overloaded Mom

I have tons more respect and kudos for my mom since becoming a mother. She always made sure holidays were on point. Her story is inspiring and a whole blog topic for another day. Before having a child, I didn’t care too much about holidays at my home once I moved out. I would stay in bed, binge watch my favorite shows, and wait to get a plate from my mom’s house. I wasn’t in a serious relationship where holidays were a big deal either, so I just went with the flow.

This year, whew! Between decorating, planning meals, setting the family budget, PLUS planning gifts, and prioritizing covid, it’s been stressful. Is this how all moms feel? Why is the responsibility on us to create the aura during the holiday season? I’m not going to say that I completely hate having most of the responsibility. It’s just a lot to have in order on top of everything else I do. When it’s all said and done, I enjoy the smiles on my family’s faces.

I did a little bit of research about the responsibilities of a mother during the holiday season, and it’s common for moms to feel burnout and stress. Most of what I read centered on the common theme of canceling the idea of a “perfect” holiday and focusing on what is important. I spent hours decorating the tree and Avianna unraveled the garland, several ornaments are missing, and the tree skirt has never been in place for more than 60 seconds. At this point, forget the tree skirt, it’s not vital and the ornaments aren’t important. She’s too young to understand what Christmas is right now, so I begin to ask myself, why put a ton of pressure on myself on decorations when she will think they are her toys. I’ve become way more relaxed about the holiday since having this realization. It’s to the extent where I’m not even sure what we are having for dinner on Christmas ( I REALLY need to figure this out!). To keep sane, I’m focusing more on family time and taking pictures for Avi’s scrapbook.

For all of the moms reading, do you feel a heavier load during the holiday times? Does this get better with experience, and what strategies have you tried to alleviate the stress?

Why You Should Trust Public Health Professionals?

I recently met with two business mentors who gave incredible advice about focusing on a niche and my skills that stand out. It was suggested that I should highlight my background in public health and write content that shows I am a trusted source. I loved the idea and thought I should first write about why people should trust public health professionals. 

Public health focuses on preventing health conditions, saving money, and improving the public’s quality of life. The type of prevention can vary from laws such as wearing your seatbelt in the car, affordable housing and education, safe neighborhoods, and health statistics such as the daily covid-19 cases in your state. Public health efforts are broad but essential to help against developing type 2 diabetes, obesity, and disease outbreaks such as covid-19. Here is a detailed read about the history of public health.

My specific public health education included an additional focus on health disparities or communities who are disadvantaged and experience inequities. Schooling for public health professionals is pretty extensive. Most graduate program curricula involve research-based assignments and hands-on learning. I can’t tell you how many books, articles, and credited websites I’ve read. Most papers were no shorter than 15ish pages (I remember a final project being 40 pages). Public professionals receive training that includes synthesizing information and extracting the most credible resources to help make decisions. Think of public health professionals as the problem- preventers. We love to share information so that you can make informed lifestyle decisions. Public health professionals are essential in communities. They have helped shape some of the greatest inventions. Here are 100 of them.

How I’m Managing My Postpartum Struggles

I hope my readers had a great Thanksgiving day. I took the week off from blogging to focus on family time. Even though I took the week off, I constantly thought about what content to publish next.

This week, I’d like to focus on my postpartum journey and particularly highlight a couple of struggles I’m facing. I’ve made it 7 months with my LO (woohoo). She’s crawling, pulling herself up to stand, loves eating beans and tortillas, and allows me to sleep for about 5ish hours in one stretch. 

I’ve noticed that while I’m learning how to take care of my child, I’ve lost touch with how to take care of myself.

One thing that consistently crosses my mind being postpartum, is the idea of who I was BEFORE having a baby and the things I could accomplish BEFORE baby. I have always had a hustler’s personality and could juggle a ton of tasks at once. Now, it’s just not as easily possible with the shift in my priorities. I’m learning to enjoy everyday and to not think of life as a race.

I also struggle with accepting my postpartum body. I gained about 40lbs during pregnancy and seven months later, I am carrying 35 of those pounds. I wear baggy clothes and just am having a hard time feeling confident. If you knew me a year ago, you know I would radiate confidence so, it’s challenging not to be comfortable and confident with my postpartum body. I spoke with my friends who also have children and, they do such a great job of comforting me and giving me suggestions on changing my thought process. I believe one of them said, “You just birthed a WHOLE human. It is going to take some time”. Putting everything into perspective makes this journey easier to handle. There are a couple of lifestyle changes I am working towards but, ultimately, I am focusing on being gentle towards myself. 

I would love to hear from you because your experiences are inspiring for me when overcoming these difficulties. What did you struggle with after having your baby? Explain how you got through those tough times.

Enjoying Holiday Season During A Pandemic

Tis the season for gatherings. Are you going to visit family and friends amidst covid-19?

I think many of us are anxious for a social event and what better way than to enjoy dinner with family you have not saw in months. Covid-19 cases have hit an all time high. By now, you’ve had it or know someone who has had it and have established personal perceptions that influence your decisions related to safety and prevention. This blog isn’t meant to tell you what you should but I’m hoping to help you think about how you celebrate the holiday season.

For my immediate family, we are staying away from large crowds, individuals who have been in gatherings larger than 10 , and people who don’t practice consistent preventive measures such as frequent hand-washing and wearing a mask. I also have concluded that if I have to wear a mask, then I’m not going. We’ve put together a marvelous menu including our favorite foods and have board games and movies ready for the holiday season. At first, I was bummed out about this decision because it’s my little one’s first holiday season but ultimately, I know she will have plenty of opportunities to visit family if we stay isolated this season. I realize not everyone has the same perception when it comes to contracting covid-19 and don’t mind seeing family, friends and going out. I think as long as you do whatever it is you are going to do, be responsible and considerate.

Examples of being responsible during this time are:

  • Wearing a mask
  • Getting a covid-19 test
  • Avoiding large crowds and social distancing when you have to go to the grocery store. Don’t be the person that stands right behind the person in front of you checking out.
  • Staying home if you have been sick (with covid-19 or not).

Now I’m curious, what are your plans for the holiday season? How will you make sure you are at low risk?

2020’s Hottest Gift Guide

I’m sharing my favorite items of 2020 so you can bless someone this holiday season.

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Here we go!

(Have your card ready)

2. Crossbody Bag

Yes, you need another one.

11. Heated Foot Massager

Because why not?

12. CeraVe Hydrating Daily Skin Bundle

Your skin will thank you during the Winter season.

19. Lounge Set for Women

Work from home fashiiioonn

20. Holiday Candle Set

Perfect for a gift exchange.



I’m curious. Were these items on your list? Am I missing anything?

My Favorite Resources to Help with Anxiety & Stress

Have you been feeling on edge this week? For me, it has been a high-strung week which makes it hard to focus on daily tasks. I’ve dealt with my fair share of anxiety on and off throughout my adult life and have managed to find ways to help me cope. First and foremost, if you feel like you need to talk to a professional or just someone in general, please contact your local hotline. Examples of things that make me feel anxious are life/goal planning, feelings of not doing enough in a day, making a big decision , and the 2020 election. I’m SUCH an over-thinker so, that results in plenty of unnecessary thoughts in my head. Whenever I have a jammed packed day or my to-do list begins to be two full pages, I usually like to try these methods.

No. 1: Music

Who else finds music therapeutic? There is a song out there for every emotion. When I’m in an anxious mood and need to power through difficult tasks, I like to listen to focus or calming music. If you want to try this method, I would suggest playing the music you prefer. Research demonstrates that listening to music you like improves mood and productivity.

No. 2: Deep Breathing

When my thoughts seem all over the place, I turn to deep breathing. I do this in the morning after reviewing my to-do list. After ten deep breaths, I’m ready to go! I think the key to using this practice is letting your mind free of thoughts and to focus on your breathing. Here are a couple of breathing exercises to try. One of them is the 4-7-8 practice. Try one and let me know which is your fav.

No. 3: Nothing

Sometimes stress or anxiety results from energy from T.V., social media, work, family, friends, or in my case, the election. After a long day or week, I like to do nothing, be unreachable, and plan some self-care time. I like anything as self-care that doesn’t require me to think or use my energy too much. Two of my favorite self-care activities are: taking a break from things to get a pedicure or just chilling on my sofa in silence.

How do you unwind and cope with stress or anxiety?

[Reblog] Navigating Postpartum During a Pandemic: Staff Shares Her Story

Originally posted here.

Written By: The Extraordinary Adrianne Robertson

As with most of us, 2020 has been a year of major transition for Any’e Carson, ECHO Program Coordinator within the IU Richard M. Fairbanks School of Public Health ECHO Center. Late last year, life changed for Carson when she found out she was expecting a baby girl who would arrive in May 2020.

While navigating pregnancy and mom life for the first time has been a challenge, Carson has found ways to thrive in her new normal. When she returned to work following her maternity leave, she helped her team launch a new virtual program that provides training to health professionals treating COVID-19, all while learning the ins and outs of motherhood and adjusting to life during a pandemic.

We sat down with Carson to hear her story and learn just how she’s managing it all.

Pregnant During a Pandemic

“Once the first case was confirmed in Marion County, I began to worry about what would happen to my baby if I contracted COVID-19,” Carson said. “There wasn’t much information out about [its impact on] pregnant women at the time.”

Fortunately, soon after the first coronavirus case was reported in Indiana, Carson would have the opportunity to work from home.

“By the first or second week in March, IU campuses closed and we were advised to work remotely. I was happy to be at home. I knew I could continue all of my responsibilities, so I didn’t have an issue with it.”

While the pandemic didn’t severely alter Carson’s work life, it did affect her pregnancy plans quite a bit.

“I didn’t have a baby shower, and with it being my first pregnancy, not having a baby shower was disappointing,” Carson said. “I also didn’t do professional pregnancy photos or have newborn photos.”

With the challenges, however, Carson said her mom has been such a big support. She helped Carson take maternity photos, as well as organize her registry and electronic thank you notes.

“My baby ended up very blessed and I’m grateful for the gifts she received.”

Postpartum During a Pandemic

The ECHO Center was still operating remotely when Carson’s maternity leave ended, allowing her to stay home longer with her daughter and transition at her own pace.

“I did not want to put my daughter in child care, and at the time I was returning to work, many daycares were still closed or had an even longer waitlist,” Carson said. “The transition back to work was a little rough…like I would mess up something or forget systems I had in place to do my job, but after the second full week back, I felt more in a groove.”

Today, Carson is still working from home while caring for her daughter, Avianna, who is now five months old. And she believes her new-mom schedule pairs well with her work schedule.

“I’m an early bird, so it’s easier for me to get to work around 7am because all I have to do is get out of the bed. I try to keep the same routines and deadlines as I had in the office.”

In response to the pandemic, Carson helped her team launch a new ECHO dedicated to COVID-19, an effort that required longer hours than usual.

“I did find work hours longer when I was helping to launch the COVID-19 ECHO. Now that the program is on a regular schedule, I work behind the scenes organizing content speakers and recruiting patient cases for the group to discuss.”

In her role, Carson executes multiple initiatives for the ECHO Center’s teleECHO programs, which offer virtual collaborative learning for primary care providers treating patients who identify as LGBTQ+, as well as those with conditions such as Hepatitis C (HCV), HIV, cancer, pain management, and COVID-19.

“In any given week, I’m building relationships among our participants, arranging content for upcoming sessions, and reporting program metrics. Other ECHOs I coordinate are the HIV ECHO and Cancer ECHO program, which launches year two in October.”

Peace During a Pandemic

How she manages it all? Carson credits her support system, and encourages other new moms to not only do the same, but also figure out ways to maintain that system.

“I have such a strong support system and am grateful to talk with my mom and friends about challenges,” she said. “I downloaded an app called Peanut where I could connect with women at different stages in life, and that helped me see that I wasn’t the only one anxious about the pandemic. There’s also Facebook groups where moms have a space to vent to one another.”

Carson makes an effort to prioritize self-care, another practice she strongly suggests for new moms. She enjoys exercising, cooking new foods, watching her favorite shows, and having DIY spa days.

“I recently launched a blog and am working on a podcast ­– so that has been my recent hobby. I also enjoy date nights like game night, painting, and movie night with my husband.”

Above all, Carson believes it is most important for new moms to follow the public health precautions that have been given.

“Ultimately, follow precautions and take care of your health. I still avoid crowds and still do grocery-pickup. And when your baby is born, stand your ground about people following precautions that would like to see the baby.”

Carson said there are still family members who have not seen her daughter because of COVID-19.

“For women who are pregnant or trying to conceive, always remember to take your prenatal vitamins. Particularly for Black women, please seek prenatal care as soon as you can and with a medical team you are comfortable with.”

Carson is settling in to her new normal and finding ways to enjoy the changes along the way, like her daughter’s budding personality.

“She’s entering a phase where she is expressive and silly. I love how happy she gets when she sees me after waking up.”

To learn more about programs offered by the ECHO Center at Fairbanks, visit our website.